What do you do when someone asks you to do something for them?
You probably go through a thought process a little something like this…
Who is this person? Do I trust them? What are they asking for? Can I help? Do I want to help?
Most of us experience hundreds of these situations every week. We are deciding where to spend our time so that it best contributes to our goals and aligns with our values. We are making choices that will inevitably effect our internal perception of productivity and progression.
So what happens if the person asking you a favor is someone that you trust and admire, but the thing that they are asking of you is incongruent with your goals? Or perhaps you’ve just said yes to 5 other things, and this extra thing can’t fit into your schedule? How do you say no?
In the video below I share three tips for saying no to someone that you like, without losing those valuable relationships. And in most cases, actually gaining more respect from them in the process…
Enjoy!
Will, great tips. You’re spot on.
Providing a good quality alternative always work well when you decide to say “No”. The person you like “wins” because they get their problem solved by a suitable person. Who you refer “wins” because they are the front runner for a new job and and you “win” because you’ve created a win-win for all other parties and created goodwill in the process.
Hey Adam,
Thanks for taking a moment to comment mate… You’re one of the key inspirations for this content – I’ve learnt a lot about these things from interacting with and observing you! So thank you.
Cheers,
Will